I. I i St To 0 Much Romane Ruins Joseph lw I 7 er es 4 1 1 Love Belongs to Youth and What ivI v I t a Man Really Wants i Y j 5 Out of Matrimony Li Is Com Comfort ort and h 1 Flattery Declares r 45 Is 6 the Famous American jL s 1 j J Jj i. i Novelist as He States i r 9 I S That Fifty Per Cent i l a of Marriage Is 1 11 4 Just Bound to Be I r It Monotony r ir N 1 cN w y 1 j r Y i 1 j 11 F r f i 1 Joseph novelist no while dis dS discounting 1 S counting the value alue of romance in in modern i j F M Mis J Ir S rit marriage hi gc believes that even cren a passable marriage j r is JS better than bachelorhood 1 i 5 In an Interview with Lillian G. G Genn YoU ou who believe that marriage must be a thing of romance of ofiL I L i-L love and of glamour or nothing at all aU listen to the words of Joseph the famous novelist Too much love and romance ruins marriage In its finest flower it belongs to youth The middle-aged middle and the married should have noth nothing ng to do with it It is an enemy of peace and reasonable proper relationships Marriage is an economic and social arrangement It is the business business business busi busi- ness of running a house having babies taking charge of of the cooking paying bills and having the companionship of one whose interests are arc yours Fifty per cent of it must naturally be a monotonous affair Ve We haven't the ability to accept ordinary life We Ve arc always after excitement and emotional stimulus If marriage goes its humdrum humdrum humdrum hum hum- drum way as it must we think that there must be something wrong with it Immediately we set up a frantic search for romance and l love ve There is a certain affection that develops in matrimony that is in every y way equal to romantic love Certainly it is much more comfort comfort- able When a n. man of 40 takes up with a a. It U Is generally nothing more or less lessi i than a a. momentary escape from the tedium of marriage While the woman must us use some se seductiveness seductiveness seductiveness se- se if she is to hold her hu husband band arid and and he In turn must do something m mere re than provide her with a a. roof over het hel head 1 if he is to retain her affection yet the sooner they realize reaUze that marriage is ismore moro more an arrangement of reason and less lessof ol of something in a a. pink quilt and ribbons the better off they will be All this Mr discussed In his sitting room at a a. New York hotel The writer Titer is short and stocky with a a. adeep adeep deep brown complexion unruly hair and c eyes es that twinkle mirthfully through shell-rimmed shell glasses lIe He was vas smartly dressed in a tan tweed suit orange col ored sweater and tie tic and he looked more i like a a. brisk of matter-of-fact business man manthan manthan manthan than the author of romantic novels During the interview he paced up and down the room talking rapidly and of oftentimes oftentimes often often- teni ten ten- i times amusingly or sat in a a. comfortable armchair puffing f furiously on a a. cigar He ne is a very friendly person and when hen h he ha grins grin's which he does frequently he re reF resembles re- re a small boy off on a a. lark F 1 JU JUST as we wo get tired of doing the same old things in life he told the thel thea l a Inte Interviewer so do we become tired of seeing the same faces Naturally th the rife fife Ue 1 or the husband is no exception We cant can't like a person every day in our 11 lives ves nor Of can we agree with him all the time Human nature being what it Is it is absurd absurd absurd ab ab- ab- ab surd to think that the marriage relationship relation relation- ship s P can an be other than commonplace When a tired and bored husband goes to a dinner party and finds himself elte eite ii a a. charming a woman hell he'll see in her heraU herall herau au all sorts of attractive Qualities By the theL theL L L. S time he reaches his Ws dessert hell he'll be thinkIng thinking thinking think think- ing that she is a much more entertaining companion than his wife In reality though she is not a bit more attractive than l Ws his s own wife and were ho he to see her morning after morning burdened with the cares of marriage she wouldn't seem any mare alluring either You know smiled the novelist novell t I believe we vc can only love people when we dont don't see them around all the time However men after their youth do not want great groat love Most of the time they ant wl comfort A woman too may think that what hat she wants is a R. romantic lover for a a. husband husban twit hot the chances are that if she had such a person around for any length of time shed she'd call him a fool and leave lea him Women are realists much more than men and any romantic inclinations that they have are realistic ones A man when hes he's in love will wUl be glad to sit on ona ona a a. fence and look at his fair ladys lady's window win win- window dow happy to be able to breathe the same air But Dut a a. woman Shell She'll never get moony She has a a. sensible head on her shoulders and shell she'll never let her ro romantic romantic romantic ro- ro mantic Impulses run away aay with her Mr also felt that pres pres- to ent-day ent civilization was as not conducive romance During the period prior to the Civil War women omen were vere able to keep ro romance romance ro- ro mance manco aglow in their marriages because they devoted their attention purely to graceful and feminine things An atmosphere of romanticism pervaded pervaded pervaded per per- the country at that time This was particularly true of the Old South Evenings Evenings Evenings Eve Eve- then were filled by a light elegance of conversation and women showed their adroitness with Fren French turns of speech with music and poetry They made a profession profession profession pro pro- of being women and charm was considered their foremost and n n- sable attribute Passionate loyalty and absorption in the men they married were also characteristic of those days herself herself herself her her- Indeed a n woman then thought self well lost in the man she married She made every effort to submerge herself in her husbands husband's personality His necessity i f II was Va hers The world was of course a a. masculine one founded on the assumption assumption assumption tion that men were ere superior in strength and in mental equipment to women The superiority of women lay In purity and fidelity in beauty and all the domestic virtues This was the universal Ideal of happiness and marriage BUT TUT many changes have since come comeL L about Women no longer regard nien men as gods nor is marriage their one and ultimate goal As a a. result womans woman's whole attitude toward men and toward marriage is different If a a. husband is going to hold his wife wife he must be an amusing companion an intelligent and understanding friend and a satisfactory lover Just to be able to offer a a. wedding ring and support Is not sufficient Not only have the men made no effort to meet these changes in the modern modem woman but they are losing their virility and physical attractiveness as well They havo bavo become too weak to hold her How has this happened Very simply In the past it was a Important for men to tobe tobe tobe be both symmetrical and strong Those were the qualities necessary for survival and were the ones that attracted and held woman Today though it f is money that has hns become of primary importance and because of this men are forced to lead sedentary lives U Just take the average average aver aver- age day of any man How much exercise and air does docs he get gat How much physical work does he engage In Whatever he lie docs does may be bo fine for his mind but his body is being ruined Mental and not physical vigor is what hat is necessary now the body has bas been sacrificed to the tho mind J JJ J 4 in men Women on the other hand have never been more interested In physical perfection What is more their minds are alert and active Naturally they have raised the personal standards of what they demand from men and the men in turn are unable to meet these require require- ments Possibly what we need now is a a. anew anew new masculine race or possibly men need new ideas about what constitutes a satisfactory sails satis factory husband and companion Certainly we C cannot compare the marriages marriages marriages mar mar- of today with what they were fifty years ago There was not so much common common common com com- mon life then The small apartments have brought about an intimacy and a a. closeness that is detrimental and even fatal to the marital relationship One must not only have the opportunity for solitude and the expression of individuality but also be able to retain enough illusion for husband and wife to be at attractive attractive at- at to each other This business of openly beautifying oneself of walking around with a a. clay mask or shaving sha cream on ones one's face or r with uncombed hair hah is all aU bad Living so close together makes the husband and wife calloused and coarsened tow toward rd each other and before you know it they are getting on each others other's nerves Romance may be an Illusory glamour but still and all nU a little of It Is needed in marriage The secret of tl this s Is some privacy for each of the partners It is interesting to note that a a. man whose novels are arc fairly fired fired fired-by by romance whose hose fiction world 1 is glittering Intriguing and alluring should view the world of reality without a a. touch of the he roseate When this was commented upon Mr i 1 I confided that his stories were written as an escape from the drabness drabness drabness drab- drab ness of life Certainly the women that he writes of are more like lovely automata molded in dreaming day-dreaming than everyday creatures of flesh and blood They are rarely the efficient Independent pra practical Ucal women of today Each one is as exquisite and as beautiful as a a. painting It is said by many critics that brings the painters painter's e eye e to literature Perhaps the fact that he began his career in that role may have much to do with the exotic and romantic quality of his writing At the age of 17 he entered the Philadelphia Phila Phila- Philadelphia delphia Academy of the Fine Arts to study painting He was not very ery p persistent or conscientious about it and when at 21 he inherited some money he gave gave up his Ws art artwork artwork artwork work to travel through Italy lie He lived ed there until his funds were gone and was forced to return home Later he embarked on a a. walking tour and it was as then that he hc met a a. woman novelist who asked his aid in proofreading her manuscript He Ile disliked her story and decided that he could do better himself He lie retired to a a. village in the Virginia mountains and wrote constantly without any success It was not until fourteen years later that he sold l Ills his s first talc tale Tho The Lay Anthony The fact that it took fourteen years cars to reach his goal was due to his Ills p persistent Ignoring of what hat the market wanted lie He was vas an artist and not nota a a. tradesman And yet et by following his own artistic inclinations he has now come como out far above many who made it a business business busi busl- ness to follow the tho market Mr is a passionate collector collector collector tor of antiques and sp CoO es neither time tune nor expense to hunt down the things ho wants or that have ha caught his fancy lie He loves 10 beautiful things beautiful furniture pictures rugs and statuettes He lie dresses with careful and meticulous elegance loves beautiful neckties owns neckties owns hundreds of them cut especially for him from material material material ma ma- selected by himself himself and and silk hand hand- kerchiefs He lIo pla plays s 's an excellent game of golf is interested in fishing and sailing dogs dogs Airedales Airedales are arc his favorite fa breed breed and and likes poker But he ho does not care for crowds in any form He lie rarely goes to New York City and seldom at attends attends attends at- at tends the theatre The novelist lives U In an old and beautiful beautiful beau beau- Colonial Colomal home in West Chester Pa called the tho Dower House which Is famed tamed for its early American furniture and an- an This is presided over by a charmIng charming charming charm charm- ing wife ife of whom speaks with fondness Aft After r two twenty-two years of married life this man who believes cs thAt th f 1 r y romance should bo ho eliminated from matrimony docs does not hesitate hesitate hesi hest tate warmly v to recommend It to every one The Tho man who does not marry and who thinks that more Joy and bliss are to be derived from bachelorhood Is a fool Granted that It means responsibilities ties tics troubles and adjustments yet the tho pleasure and the happiness It can give sire particularly in later years ears more than make up for it It Is only in marriage that one can completely give sive oneself that all the fine feeling and affection can de de- de Spiritual closeness mental companionship com corn and deep loyalty come como only after ono has lived with a a. person for years ears Even a a. passable marriage is better than bachelorhood Any marriage can be successful if it It U is consciously planned and If the partner partners are not too greatly imbued with romantic ideas as to what it should be like I T THINK when you come down to It 1 that what a a. man really wants from marriage Is comfort He wants a a. wife who will attend to l Ills his s needs and who will manage his house and cl children properly If she possesses a sense of humor he may consider himself fortunate Such a a. woman isn't likely to be suspicious of his every move and she will not Imagine the wont worst if he looks at another woman She has hu the ability to see seo things and people in their relative values alucs And yet et another thing the man wants wants twinkled the au author author au- au thor is flattery No mat matter r how clever a fellow he may be he will Just bask In flattery If the woman will give him plenty of it there wont won't be a no thing she cant can't get from him I 1 know for I love it myself he grinned One of the things he himself can do doto doto doto to make her happy is to give her a a. bill when bill when he has lias it to It-to to spend on herself herselt Dont Don't call her a n. spendthrift or flighty or extravagant 1 If she sho spends your our money on a a. dress for fa herself That's where she should spend It A lovely dress at any price whatever is wiser than any econ econ- omy It is money well Invested ted With a anew anew anew new dress on she will bo be a a. different woman Haven't you ou noticed how much brighter and gayer gaer her mood will be Ifo How much mach bet better r she will feel I 1 think that feminine vanity in clothes is 15 the most valid of vanities There Is no greater treat after a days day's work than to have ones one's wife greet one becomingly gowned and delightfully perfumed What Is more Inore every wife has to meat m t with a mans man's tendency to go co after some cutie And a a. great deal of her success in keeping him at the will depend on her own attractiveness If in addition she exercises patience and keeps her sense of humor active hell he'll leave lea her only under compulsion A great reat love Isn't necessary between husband and wife It only disturbs the tho tranquillity of the relationship and is likely to be destructive to marriage Itself The essential thing is that marriage should be based on a flue fine physical fitness In the course of time Ume there will develop a a. feeling of affection that will be as poignant and andas andas as ns beautiful as romantic love Co by bv rAb- rAb 0